Just can't win

[300rag]

Just when I was getting myself back into a more normal life, another setback. My dad has been placed into a pallatiave care facility and we have been told to prepare for the worst. His body has started to reject the regular blood transfusions he has been receiving. This is definitely a test of stamina for us. Not a great start to the new year.

 

[azblackhemi]

Very sorry to hear this Peter. I will keep you and your family in my prayers.

 

[mdh157]

x2 on the prayers, and another reminder that I need to start counting my blessings instead of cursing them.

 

[70bigblockdodge]

Sorry to here about that will keep you in my thoughts.

 

[1978 NYB]

x3........only hoping for the best for you and your family.

 

[commando1]

Peter, a one-two punch like this needs a lot of venting. We're here to listen.

 

[detmatt]

Thoughts and prayers from the Motor City Peter, hang in there buddy, we're here for you.

 

[Fratzog]

Sorry to hear about your dad. I'm hoping for a miracle.

 

[Big_John]

My thoughts are with you. Things like this are never easy for anyone.

 

[Ironwolf]

Wishing for the best !!! Stay strong ...........

 

[Catfish]

Thoughts and prayers......

 

[AlleyOop2]

Sorry to hear, Thoughts and Prayers sent

 

[has2bmopar]

I will be wishing you and your Father well.

I lost my Dad when I was 28, a sister the following year and my mother the next. My parents were in their mid 60's and my sister was barely 39. Be weary that it can change you, and don't give up on hope and better days to come.

I pushed away a pretty decent girlfriend of 5 years the next year and later that same year one of the 2 best dogs I ever had died on my feet right after everyone left my house on Christmas Eve. I was bitter at life in general for quite some time and I later realized I had just made things worse for myself. I still stay in contact with the ex-girlfriend and the people that I have lost still play a part in the decisions I make throughout life. I was blessed with outstanding parents and would rather have had them for a short time rather than average parents for my entire life.

Take care and carry the good memories above everything. From my own experience it has helped, and though distant I am certain you have valid friends amoung this group.

 

[commando1]

Peter, I have a story that I hope you don't mind my sharing.
It had a major impact on my life and i remember it as vividly today as that night 40 years ago.

There was a 24 hr. diner that all the drivers from our company went to regardless of what location we worked out of. We had heard a story of a driver from another facility who cared for many years his wife who was ill and a daughter with emotional problems.This was on top of working 50-60 hours a week. His wife passed and and very soon after his daughter took her own life. He took a week off from work and then returned.
This driver walked in and none of us really knew what to say. He sat down quietly and after a few hellos, slowly drank his coffee. Someone broke the ice and asked him "Hank, how do you do it?" meaning coping so soon after.
After a pause, he softly said "What would you like me to do? Stop my life, too?"
One day at a time Peter.

 

[bulldogchesty]

My prayers are with you and your family. I hope all gets better.

 

[polarus]

In my thoughts and prayers, stay strong.

 

[70bigblockdodge]

Again Peter thoughts and prayers are with you. Stan that's a good story thank you, I lost a co worker yesterday to a stupid traffic accident, sometimes it seems we are invincible in these 80,000 lb monsters but one little hit from a little SUV cost my friend his life. Very sobering to say the least, his daughter is about to give birth to the first grandchild that he will never see, very sad. Sorry I didn't mean to hijack Peter's thread but the fact of life being short and gathering back up and carrying on with your life is very true. Thanks for letting me share

 

[detmatt]

I hope that we all can be reunited with the loved ones that we have lost in this life, dogs included.

 

[Ironwolf]

Peter, I have a story that I hope you don't mind my sharing.
It had a major impact on my life and i remember it as vividly today as that night 40 years ago.

There was a 24 hr. diner that all the drivers from our company went to regardless of what location we worked out of. We had heard a story of a driver from another facility who cared for many years his wife who was ill and a daughter with emotional problems.This was on top of working 50-60 hours a week. His wife passed and and very soon after his daughter took her own life. He took a week off from work and then returned.
This driver walked in and none of us really knew what to say. He sat down quietly and after a few hellos, slowly drank his coffee. Someone broke the ice and asked him "Hank, how do you do it?" meaning coping so soon after.
After a pause, he softly said "What would you like me to do? Stop my life, too?"
One day at a time Peter.

That was awesome Stan !!!! :wtg:

 

[300rag]

Thanks everyone for all the thoughts and prayers. Stan, the response from that driver is similar to the question posed to me by friends - "What would Donna want you to do, and what would you have wanted her to do if it was the other way around?" My dad's concern seems to be that I shouldn't cancel my Florida trip. He isn't making this easy. Hopefully tomorrow we will have some answers as to where he is going to be transferred to and what we should hope for.