Well I thought I was giving you advice. If you think it's attitude, by all means, feel free to ignore it. Take the car to Maaco, or one of the (professional) painters you've met who get paid top dollar to block primer.
I didn't think Carmine was giving you attitude, at least from where I stand. I think what he was trying to say is that even a pretty good paint job depends mostly on the prep - that is really where the quality of the paint job is revealed. If you were considering Chris in the beginning, then my assumption too was that you were seeking a pretty good paint job. Guys that can do or are willing to do really good work are increasingly rare, as there is simply little money to be made doing this at say $45 an hour when insurance repairs can bring in $90 per hour work and most of that is replacing metal panels rather than working the bent but fixable panels already on the car. And insurance companies always pay promptly, which is rarely the case with individual customers who just want "a nice paint job" - you are probably the exception given my impression of you based on what I have read of your posts.
For my cars, I want them as perfect as they can be, and that is why I pay my body/paint guy the money it takes to get there. He will spend literally weeks getting every detail fixed to perfection not only because I will pay him to do that, but because he wants his work to make a statement about him - i.e. he takes great pride in what he does. And I appreciate it. And he is on site for me and I provide him with the building and pay the utilities on top of it all needed to get the work done for me, which he does 2 days/week for me consistently.
But he occasionally will take on a job where the owner wants a good job but is willing to accept not perfect as a result, but even his worst work is pretty damn good. But on those jobs he ends up losing money usually because guys won't pay to get the result he likes to have leave his shop and he puts in more hours than he charged them for, and even then they often don't pay him even the agreed upon price at the start of the work when the work is done. So he has to beg them to pay him for some time afterwards. So he has soured on this kind of work in general and could make a lot more on insurance work rather than restoration type work that Carmine is referring to. The bottom line is that the experiences of my body/paint guy are not unusual among the better body/paint guys that are left. Now when someone wants an OK job from him at a lower price, then he now requires half up front for the total cost of the job and then when the car is about half done, he requires the balance at that point. If they don't have it, he sends the car back to them undone. In the past, he has tried to give them some flexibility in the mid term payment, but in virtually every case, they still don't come up with the remainder of the agreed upon price for months afterwards if ever.
So what you have now is very good body/paint guys that cost more than most would like to pay (like an average job is $12K if the car is pretty nice to begin with and doesn't need a lot of rust repair) and that being done at $45/hour is some 260 hours of tedious, difficult work, using a lot of chemicals and paint formulations that are ever changing, and having to fix related problems that never end. The other guys that are of average skill will take the insurance jobs and get double the money of a really good body/paint guy. So what you have left after them is the Maaco guys. I am not making judgments about anyone in this explanation, but just letting you know what I am seeing as the reality that exists in the U.S. these days.