In general, there are "consumer"-level kits, which many trans shops can use (for a bone-stock rebuild). Better "performance" shops can use better frictions and such, and there are the "race" shops that cater to mostly racers, BUT can also know which brands of frictions work best for them.
NOW, ALSO consider that many transmission builders have their OWN "secret mix" of things which THEY have found to work best for their customers. NOTHING generic Not unlike an engine builder that focuses on piston rings rather than main bearings, for example. Best rings as that means more power, harder to change, but main bearings are easier to change, so they can be changed more often, as a result. Just as one builder might like one brand of bands yet another brand of frictions. AND the use of the band-apply lever, too.
Also in the "secret mix", there can be changes to the valve body separator plate, leaving out the accumulator piston, and sending out the valve body for "wear" repairs of the shuttle valves and their bores.
I know that many like particular TF books, which is good, but I would also recommend the Mopar Perf Race Manual which includes the sections on TorqueFlite modifications. MP used to sell their own shift kits for TFs too!!
Transmissions is ONE item where IF you want something different than OEM stock, you need to know how to get there. To me, the Direct Connection Race Manual can be an OEM-level source for that. If you might run across on of the OLD Direct Connection Race Manuals (all 1200 pages of it), GET ONE!!!! The newer versions are more segmented and type-set printed, but the old ones, which look like copied typewritten pages with somewhat crude drawings, are probably the best ones, to me.
Go ahead and watch the many YT videos, talk to some good builders, THEN make your decisions of what to get and where.
As to "kits", some are available from Rock Auto.
Used to be that the old B&M Transmission kits were the premier kits back in the 1980s and prior. Instructions to build the trans for "stock", "towing", or "performance". Back when they were the premier aftermarket transmission (including drag racing) supplier.
Just some thoughts and observations,
CBODY67