As to going back to VT, well.....let's just say it's not the blue collar farming state I grew up in. Many native Vermonters have left and been replaced with Bernie-types from the cities. Taxes are nuts, traditional values are considered bad now, and it's become the heroine capital or crossroads or whatever of the US. Look it up online. Still a beautiful state, just not a place I'd care to be anymore. No real work there to speak of, business and industry have been chased off unless you make ice cream or teddy bears. Not to mention being overruled by the War Dept (wife) who is a Tampa girl. Too cold! Instead we're going to live in the belly of the beast. Doesn't make sense from the 'family values' aspect, but does financially.
Those types ruin everything they touch, it seems like the more abnormal something is the better they like it and the more they defend it. That's why you end up with no real business, outrageous taxes, and drugs all over the place, just look at almost every major north american city, and who they are run by. It really is a shame, VT used to be really nice.
Good luck with your move, and I totally agree with the assessment that moving sucks.