+1 on getting yours straightened out for sure!
just putting this here from FABO - best verbal description I have found of what *minimum* should be hooked up to the starter relay:
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Start by disconnecting the
battery ground for safety. Take EVERY wire off the rellay, and put them back one at a time as you need them:
1....Big stud......This jumpers the battery, the starter big stud, and any "hot" tap offs together. Also coming off this stud is the main feed "used to go" to the ammeter through the bulkhead connector, via the fuse link
For now, that is ALL that should be there
2....Bare square terminal. ONE wire only............going down to the starter (small)
solenoid terminal
3...and4....The two quick connect terminals
If you have no
clutch safety switch ground one of them. Hook the other to the "starter" wire coming out through the bulkhead
Now, find out where "what is left" goes and does. If someone has done some sort of alternator bypass, one of them may go to the
alternator output. This would hook to the big stud
Anything else, such as fuel pump or ignition should NOT be there except as a power feed to a relay