Alright, about now you are frustrated and ready to pull your hair out and tell us all to F.O.
But, PLEASE listen to what I say so you DO NOT get hurt. Reinstall the lower two ball joint to spindle bolts, you do not have to tighten them, just make sure they are on at least five turns. Then you can jack the car up off the jack stands about 1 inch clearance. Then loosen the upper ball joint nut, THEN STRIKE IT WITH THE B.F.H.
The force of the torsion bars will help dislodge the spindle. Then lower the car onto the jack stands and remove the spindle.