You are probably correct in waiting until the engine is in the car to do the idle speed tuning. With a 3.23 and a tire diameter similar to the stock 8.55x14 size, that would probably be about 24.5mph/1000rpm in high gear. 3000rpm cruise would be about 75mph, so that would probably be in the meat of the torque curve of your motor, when cylinder pressure is good for decent fuel economy and response.
In the '78 Chyrsler service manual, it lists the stall speeds for the stock 400s and 440s used that year. Many of the HO motors spec'd 25-2800rpm stall speeds.
"Stall speed" is measured at WOT with the brakes locked. You CAN d. rive a looser torque converter with a lower-number axle ratio and everything "lives" just fine. BUT you have to use a steady throttle foot. Not only will an unsteady throttle foot (varying engine rpms at cruise) result in engine rpm changes with little vehicle speed change, but that also eats into the cruise fuel economy. It can build a little more heat, too, but the big contributor to trans fluid heat is deceleration, not acceleration. In "decel", the fluid runs into itself and that builds heat in the converter.
A 3.55 gear will make the car feel more responsive, but will have higher cruise rpms and such.
You probably WILL need some rear suspension upgrades to get the power to the ground effectively! "More spring" and possibly some type of traction bar?
Just some thoughts,
CBODY67